SELF CONFIDENCE

 

Generally we always like to stay in COMFORT ZONE. Comfort zone means it's a circle around us where we can _____ stay with our known people and relatives, _____depend on a particular man or group of man, _____stay in known place or circumstances, ______stay with joy etc. Here we never face the adverse situation and also can avoid our responsibility.

Staying in this comfort zone give us a pure comfort and never generate self confidence. To create and grow our self confidence, we must have to come out from this comfort zone. We have to face the adverse situation, we have to meet and pass a considerable time with the people whom we do not prefer. Try to assist / help others in their need. Don't think deeply about any matter. Say " NO " gently where such circumstances arise. These are some weapons which help us to grow self confidence. 

As we all know that individually a man is unable to perform all the works of the world. We shall always try. Success or failure will be the result. Failure helps us to find out the new avenue to get the success. And thus the self confidence grows. If any one treat your gentleness as your weakness and blame you & place the burden on your shoulder , then say him "NO" gently ----- who he may be. It is advisable to practice this manner from the very beginning of childhood.

" What can I do and what can not do----- depending upon this idea and feelings, the self confidence generates"_______ this is the saying of psychiatrist. In language of psychology, self confidence is nothing but positive feelings about himself. Mainly SEROTONIN, DOPAMIN and ENDOFRIN Neuro transmitter take greater part in forming self confidence. 

To grow our self confidence , we may congratualate or give prize to ourselves for good work. To talk with others or exchange thoughts with others help us to grow self confidence. A self confident man express his thoughts through his physical appearance, by his way of talking or his wishes to come forward in day to day work and helping others. In opposite case , the person who have no self confidence always try himself to hide others, feel fear for any type of work and also stammer himself at the time of talking. 

It's a fact ...... that we do not born with self confidence. Passing through the different circumstances in life , this conference appears or grow. If you praise a child for his work , confidence will automatically grow in him. Vice versa, if you discourage him for every work, if you rebuke him always, he will roll up himself and he become so called DISOBEDIENT in the long run. In future , ____ what will be the child's subject for higher study .. OR  what stream he will proceed so that he can get a good job etc .... all these factors to be decided in consultation with his child and guide him accordingly. In this regard, connection with the child plays a vital role. It acts more than the guidance. If require grooming may be done. Grooming can be defined as a process by which some good habits may be placed in daily routine. Here communication skill of individual is vital i.e. after going through the facts properly and precisely , presentation of facts should be done before the listener. For this.... good dress , good pronunciation , gentle behavior & good appearance etc. are required. 

Self confidence also depends on physical fitness. Regular exercise whether it is yoga or free hand exercise or any physical exercise keeps us fit which also help us to grow the confidence. It has been found that one, who is more physically fit, he his more owner of self confidence. Here it may be mentioned that substantial and balanced food full of vitamin, protein, carbohydrate etc. also plays a vital role. 

At last it is worthy to mention that self confidence is essential to make the life happy but the over confidence is really harmful. Over confident people some time takes the burden of such big job without considering / measuring / knowing his own capacity. Without knowing the work properly , he undertakes the job. He is unable to judge himself properly. As a result of which he fails rather he become unacceptable to others. This bring sarrow / measure in life.