In daily life, most of us, face two things. These are .. (1) Challenge / Problems created by the environment and other one ...(2) is our ability/ skill based on our socio-economic condition to encounter the challenges. The peace of mind or enjoyment of life, mostly depends upon the power of these two factors. Equilibrium of these two bring happiness to us . Peace / happiness or unhappiness is the final result of a match between Challenges and Skill. If Challenges/problems are much higher than our Skill or Ability to meet the same, then unbalanced situation generates. Unhappiness , Tension etc prevails in our life. In this situation it may be suggested, if possible the whole Challenge / Problem can be divided into smaller parts . Then one can try with his limited ability / skill to solve those smaller parts so that in the long run total problems will be solved and desired balanced will come. Again in case of vice-versa, I.e. where ability or skill is higher than the problems / Challenges faced, over confidence or Superity Complex comes. This over confidence or Superior Complex gives temporary happiness or peace but in future, it acts in opposite direction. But when these two factors are equal, real peace or happiness comes and we call it as balanced / happy life. It is just like a tenis match that if you can return the services of opponent properly , the game will be enjoyable and in the long run you will win the game.
Now the question is how to mitigate the problems which arrive now and then in our day to day life. The first theory is to follow the principle--------- " SOLVE the problem or LEAVE the problem. Don't LIVE with the problem. " Living with the problems is very painful as well as dangerous and it leads to destruction of life. Again the question comes _______ How to solve? There are three steps which can be followed to solve any problem. These are (1) Face the problem throughly (2) Fight with the problem with your whole ability and skill (3) Finish the problem upto the root level. Don't leave behind any small fraction of problem alive as it will automatically grow and will take another big shape in future again.
To fight with these problems, we have to come out of the negative thoughts. Negative thoughts block ²one's ability of thinking. The crowd of negative thoughts mutilated, cripples and destroy slowly the human spirit. It darken our vision and make us indifferent. Example of negative thoughts can be illustrated in this way. Suppose you have invited 100 persons in a function of your home. There sixty percent was present and forty percent was absent. It is advisable not to analyze the cause why they are absent. Negative thinking will try to direct you to discuss the different causes of absent. This thinking will first proceed through the main root and it will devide and again it will sub-devide and so on. The result of which is that the total enjoyment of function will be ruined and you will get no solution or appropriate answer of your thoughts. In stead of this ... if you mix with joy with your invitees those who have appeared , your mind will be relaxed and the of the I.e. enjoyment will be achieved. This is the simplest example of bad effect of negative thinking.
But, it is also true, for the common people this negative thinking appears automatically and takes a greater part of our thoughts. Negative attitude serves no good.... either to us or to others. It is very much impossible to overcome the negative attitudes. Negative attitude should be overcome with positive ones. Believe/ Trust is an urgent and foremost weapon to overcome negative thinking. The sooner we come out , quicker the benefits and blessings showered on us. Principles to step out of negative thinking can be done by :::: (a) Friendship with brave and confident people (b) Replacement of negative thoughts with positive ones (c) Step out of idleness.
Again another weapon to win the problem or Challenges is the faith in yourself. Faith is the fundamental factor in all winning people. As per Vivekananda's saying ----- " Whatever you think, that will be. If you think yourself weak, weak will be. Vice versa, if you think yourselves strong, strong will be. Similarly, if you think yourself pure, pure will be & vice versa. If a man thinks day and night he is measurable, low and nothing --- nothing he becomes ". SO BELIEVE IN YOURSELVES. If you want to get rid of these problems/Challenges, you work it out in intellectual or spiritual plan. In course of time, you will see that you are free and eternal bliss will come to you. Here we may cite the example of ARJUNA'S activity in KURUKHETRA. Defective thinking leads him to loss of faith in himself. He dropped his weapons and refused to proceed for fight. LORD KRISHNA removed his confusion and pulled him out from the loss of faith in himself And we all know the consequences of this generation of faith in himself.
Another factor i.e. fault finding attitude never wins. It leads to disturb mind. It N E V E R brings peace in life . It is better not to talk about the faults of others. Because if you talk about the faults of someone, it will not help him. Rather it will make injury to him. We, the human beings, blame others for our failure. We always try to find out the faults in others for our failure. BLAMING OF OTHERS NEVER ENDS . Blaming each other serves no purpose. It never gives us the desired result i.e. win of problem. So it is better not to blame others but to find out the faults / mistakes which we have done ourselves.
Selfishness is another factor which is the barrier / obstacle to get peace. Self interest or selfishness leads to scared mind. Selfish mind is always tensed mind. It always search the loss or gain. Man becomes very much commercial. But unselfish mind is always relaxed mind If you think good for the people , good for the community, good for the family, good for organization or good for general others, you will feel a relaxed mind in yourself .
Again, it is the moral strength enables us to cultivate higher virtues of our personalities and bestow upon us peace, harmony and prosperity. Neither the physical strength nor the intellectual strength can bestow us that which can be blessed by moral strength. But the question is........ How the moral strength of individuals can be achieved or improved? Generally moral strength comes from ~~~~~~ (a) Purity of thoughts (b) Purity of speech (c) Purity of action. Company of good people and reading of good books are highly conductive for Purity of thoughts. Secondly, the way of speech reveals our inner personalities. The words we speak must be smooth and inspire the mind and touch the inner core of the heart of the listeners. Thirdly, words may sometimes be used to hide our inner fillings but actions will convey the REAL INNER FEELINGS. The purity of action calls for dedication of work, dignity of work and to treat work as the worship of G O D.
In upanisad it revels that " উত্তিষ্ঠত, জাগ্রত, প্রাপ্য বরান্ নিবোধত্ত "।
